A YOUNG nudist has moved in next door and I often come home to find him and my wife sitting naked at the kitchen table having a cup of tea.
I’m 43 and my wife is 41. The house next to us stood empty for a year until this young guy started doing it up last summer.
He’s 32. My wife and I became friends with him, regularly taking him cups of tea and allowing him to use our shower when he was having plumbing work done.
He then started to put up a large fence in the back garden. My wife jokingly asked him if we’d done something to upset him. He explained that he is a naturist and wanted to spend time outside.
He said the fence was a privacy screen as he didn’t want to offend us if we saw him out in the garden. We carried on being friendly and often saw him naked in the garden - we could see him from our bedroom window.
One day I came home from work to find a gate had been put in the fence. My wife said it was so our neighbour could nip round to our house without having to trail all the way round the front of the house.
Then I came home one day to find my wife naked while doing the housework. She said she felt comfortable and encouraged me too naked too. I agreed but insisted we only did it indoors and not in company.
My wife started venturing naked outside pegging the washing out and taking rubbish to the bins. I came home from the shops one day to find my wife and neighbour chatting at our back door – both were nude.
When I complained about it later she said I was making a big fuss about nothing and it was the most natural thing in the world to be nude. After that I’d often come home to find them naked at the kitchen table having a cup of tea.
I got really angry about it and told our neighbour he wasn’t welcome any longer. He stopped visiting for a couple of weeks, but he soon reappeared and he and my wife still see a lot of one another - literally.
My wife wants us to join his nudist club and for the three of us to go on a nudist holiday together. Short of selling the house, how do I get my wife to stop her unreasonable behaviour? If I don’t go, I worry she’ll go with him anyway.
They’re both pushing the boundaries. Yes, naturists believe it’s normal to walk around unencumbered by clothes but clearly there’s a buzz going on between your wife and the neighbour – at the very least.
Simply banning the guy next door could drive their relationship underground and cause more trouble than it solves.
Tell your wife you want to negotiate reasonable times for her to go round nude at home – which she’ll stick to - and need to talk about what she’s getting from the guy next door that she’s not getting from your marriage. Be clear your relationship is on the line.
Look for ways you can brighten your life together to take the focus off the younger man next door. Have you been a bit of a dull guy recently?
Say no to a nudist holiday you clearly wouldn’t enjoy, but can you run to a different exciting holiday together, and look for a new active interest together that you’d both enjoy?
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